When someone we love dies, most of us experience some sense of “What do I do now?” Whilst your Funeral Director will help with the arrangements such as the date of the service, the coffin and the hearse, I will support to create a thoughtful and appropriate ceremony that is exactly as you wish. I believe it is this that we are likely to remember, and that will serve as a future reminder of your loved one. So getting it right is vital.
The first step to doing this is to meet with you. We will take some time to talk about your loved one; their family life, hobbies, interests, work history, memories you treasure and anything else you would like included in the ceremony. We’ll also talk about what music they liked, any favourite readings or poems and if you would like any religious or spiritual material included.
I will then create a first draft of the whole ceremony which will be sent to you within a couple of days. This will give you the opportunity to make sure I have captured all the details accurately and not missed any vital elements. I can recommend music, poems, readings, hymns and prayers if you wish, or you can simply tell me what you would like included.
If you would like me to contact any other family members or friends regarding details of the person’s life, or to discuss their contributions, I will happily do so.
Before the ceremony we will be in touch with each other to amend and finalise all of the details, up to 48 hours before the ceremony. I will also be in regular contact with your Funeral Director to make sure everything will run smoothly.
On the day I can and will take as active or passive part in the ceremony as you wish. If there are family and friends who would like to read poems, deliver a eulogy or sing, I am very happy to bring them all together so that everything flows well. Equally if you wish me to deliver the entire ceremony I can do so professionally and with empathy.
After the funeral I will create a final version of the ceremony and send it to you so that you have a lasting copy.